this is the part where most people either over-correct (become cold) or fall back into over-giving.
What you want is a measured re-entry, where your responses stay warm but balanced.
1.
First stage – she’s slightly warmer
Example: she sends a photo, small compliment, or “how’s your week?”
Keep it light, reply once, match her tone:
“Week’s been solid, a lot going on but all good. You?”
“Nice shot — looks like you’re having fun.”
No long explanations, no “I missed you,” no new questions after hers.
You’re showing interest without chase.
2.
Second stage – she asks more, wants to know details
Now she’s trying to re-establish connection.
Answer honestly but still briefly. End on something that gives her space to continue if she wants.
“It’s been a good stretch lately, training a bit, seeing friends. What about you — what’s keeping you busy these days?”
You open one small door; she has to walk through it.
If she does, you match her again.
3.
Third stage – she’s clearly engaged (multiple texts, compliments, calling you attractive etc.)
Now you can bring a little warmth back — one line that feels genuine, not flooding:
“Good to hear from you again — I like this energy.”
“You sound more relaxed lately; it suits you.”
Keep it contained. One warm sentence is stronger than ten.
If she gives more, then you slowly lengthen your messages.
4.
If she proposes to meet or call
Say yes if you want, but calmly:
“Sure, that could be nice. Let’s find a time that works.”
No excitement, no over-planning — just ease.
The core rule
Generosity is attractive.
Unearned intensity feels heavy.
So in the first stage, you do give — but only things that fit the level of connection you actually have.
You don’t yet give access to your full emotional energy, family, or big plans.
When she starts to invest — writes first, shares something real, asks more — then you can open a bit more.
A healthy dynamic is always:
give ↔ receive ↔ give,
not give → hope → wait.
So yes: in early stages, think “measured warmth, not withholding, not flooding.”
You’re showing that your affection is real, but your availability is earned.
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